Wow! Welcome to October! The months are passing so quickly. Oftentimes, when we think about this time of year, we start to reflect on all the things we accomplished or.... didn't. I was talking to a couple of my friends, a few days ago and one of my friends was so upset and disappointed that she had not completed the things that she set out to do this year. So, I decided to write about how to get past disappointment.
Sometimes you have to re-evaluate the situation, Hit the Reset button!
We all have times when we feel like we're not doing what we want to do or feel as if we've failed at something. I know I have. I have definitely had to take a step back from time to time and re-evaluate some situations. I had to ask myself some hard questions.
- Why do I think the way I do?
- What do I want?
- How am I going to get it?
- Why do I compare myself to others?
I realized that we all are programmed to think a certain way. How we were raised and what we are exposed to plays a huge factor on how we think. As far as education and jobs, most people were told to go to college and get a job in a traditional profession just like Robert Kiyosaki's rich dad and poor dad in one of his books, "Cashflow Quadrant". He wrote, "Having two dynamic and successful father figures around me gave meaning to what each was saying. But it was what they were doing that allowed me to begin to notice the differences between the E-S side and the B-I side. At first, the differences were subtle. Then they became glaring." In this quadrant, he speaks of the E-S AND B-I Quadrants. The four sections are Employee, Self Employed, Big Business Owners and Investors. He explains how they all are different and the characteristic that each person has. It's definitely a good read and if you're unsure of your path, try reading it. If you're going to school for something that you are passionate about and is within your character, by all means, keep going.
Trying to follow the norm I picked a major in which I knew I could get a job in that field. Instead of following my dreams and pushing past my doubts. However, now I know the best thing that you can ever do is follow your heart. People say that all the time but it's true. It won't be easy but spending years in college for something you won't ever use and then having to work at a job to pay that money back. At least, dedicate some of your time while working that job to following your passion. It will definitely make you feel better. Education is so important and you will learn so much as life becomes your teacher.
Now, I know what I want. I want to help others, I want to be free and I want to make enough money to live the type of lifestyle I desire. I want to spend time with my family and travel the world. I don't want my work to feel like "work". Even if I weren't getting paid to do what I'm passionate about, I would still be satisfied and do it anyway. I don't want to ask my boss for time off or let people know when I'm taking vacation time.
The "HOW" is always the hardest, but so simple at the same damn time! Take action! Do it! Stop talking and DO IT! Stop feeling bad about yourself and DO IT! I cannot stress this enough! Every day, I work on my goals. EVERYDAY! I've grown to see when I take action things start to fall into place. I cannot begin to tell you how much I've grown over this year alone. Reading, YouTube, Webinars, Podcast and asking tons of questions... LOL. You can't be afraid to spend some time and money to invest in yourself. Some people pay for coaches and consultants. I haven't done that but I have listened to a lot of free material and I haven't had problems figuring things out. However, I may need some help later and I won't be afraid to invest in someone to help me reach my next level.
"You can't have what you don't show up for." - Sonia Luxing
Why do I compare myself with others? This is cutting deep right here. Yes, I'm letting you in. I've done this and 9 times out of 10 you have too. Do me a favor and STOP!!! We all have our own gifts. What you can do and how you do it, is ALL on you. Besides, you may not be willing to go through what that person has been through to get what they have. Another thing, everything that looks good... Isn't always. Keep your eyes on your prize and stay on the path that's meant for you. You have hard times because you have to go through trials and tribulations in order to face things in the future or even to help someone else get through hard times. Most times, your hard times are trying to redirect you to do something that you're truly destined to do.
Think about this, what if you never failed at doing anything? Cake walk right? Wrong! You clearly wouldn't know how to handle situations when they do arise nor will you be able to help others with their troubles. If everything has always worked out for you, beware. When you're conditioned to troubleshoot and overcome obstacles it makes you stronger as a person and very resourceful. These "so-called failures" are normal. When you "fail" at something it's a learning experience. Think about what you may have done wrong or should change. Although, I think back on some things and I thank God they didn't happen! I'm happy I failed those times! LOL
Stay away from negative people. Far, far AWAY! Negative people will plant things in your mind and if you're not careful, in your soul. Every time, something goes wrong what they said about you will pop up in your head. That "I'm not good enough spirit" is not welcomed in minds of champions. Prove it wrong! Keep your word to yourself. Use positive affirmations, EVERY DAY. Speak life into yourself, I AM intelligent... I AM courageous... I AM successful... I AM powerful... I AM beautiful... and so on! Cutting off negative people will work wonders. Find like minded individuals to keep in your circle.
It's normal to be disappointed when things don't go as planned. So don't get off track when things don't work the way you want them to. Know that everything happens for a reason. Love yourself. Encourage yourself. Speak life into yourself. All of your issues start with you, don't let others dictate how you will live your life.
Here's another blog post to get you motivated!